Let Us Come to the Table

“Oh come, let us worship and bow down; let us kneel before the Lord, our Maker! For he is our God, and we are the people of his pasture, and the sheep of his hand. Today, if you hear his voice, do not harden your hearts” Psalm 95:6-8a

When I first came to salvation as a young teenager, I attended a small baptist church in a small town in Georgia. In traditional fashion for this church, communion was taken once a quarter. So every three months, two trays were passed down the row. We would take the drink and the bread which was really a tiny dry cracker. And the only reason I had for why we did this was Jesus told us to, but beyond that, it didn’t impact me or mean very much to me as I sat in those pews. Fast forward to more recent years. As I have grown in my walk with the Lord, the table has become a sweet time to remember what Christ’s sacrifice and salvation means to me. Here at North Wake there have been many times I have prayed, confessed, and sought forgiveness before coming to the table. I have always enjoyed joining with my church family to partake in communion as we remember Him, and I always will.  This past Lent season, however, my gracious Heavenly Father shook me to my core and revealed even sweeter and deeper truths about what it means to come to the table.

These past few months have been very trying for me. There have been emotional battles, relational battles, and even physical pain that I have had to endure.  And all of this led to some deep hurt and doubt. Doubts if God cared. Does He really love me? Is He truly sovereign? Doubts that lead straight to: Is Jesus real? Is God real? Is any of this that I have placed my life and trust in over the past 24 years real? Please understand I wasn’t ready to give up. I diligently read Scripture, prayed, sought out others to pray for me, and studied about God’s attributes and His Fatherly heart. I also began getting up an hour or more earlier than normal just to pray and seek God to help me through this fight for faith.

During those early morning hours God began to soften my heart. On March 18th I arrived at church ready to worship. For the first time in awhile I was excited to be at church. The sermon that Sunday was Peter’s denial. Within just a few minutes I was coming apart. I could see myself as Peter more clearly than I ever had before. Not that I haven’t acknowledged how I am like Peter in being forgetful of my Savior, or how I can easily not speak up about my Christ when given the chance. But I had never before been so clearly presented with how much I was denying my Lord like I had been doing recently.

As I sat and listened to Larry teach, the Lord mercifully convicted me about what was going on in my heart. He began to use the Scriptures to reveal truth about my own heart, but what hit me hardest was where we are told Jesus took time to look at Peter. Luke 24:61, “And the Lord turned and looked at Peter.” Here was Jesus on trial for His life, and He takes the time to look at Peter. To seek Peter out. And it was this look that lead Peter to remember Jesus’ words to him, and he went out and wept. That was me. As I remembered and heard Jesus’ words, I sat there weeping. Blessedly, Peter’s story doesn’t end there! After his resurrection, Jesus comes and seeks Peter out. They eat together again, and Jesus restores the relationship that Peter had hurt. Sitting there, I knew this is also my story—Jesus comes to seek us and restore us.

By the time the sermon had come to a close, I was a complete mess. I was Peter. Peter in his denial yes, but also Peter whom Jesus looked at during his denial, and Peter whom Jesus sought out to restore the relationship.

When the call to approach the communion table came, I sat. My sweet husband wasn’t well so he wasn’t there to lead me down to the table. As I sat there I prayed and wept and prayed and wept some more. You see, I had a choice to make. I could go the table or stay in my seat. I was having a full on raging debate inside as to what I should do.

As Larry finished the sermon, prayed, and the band played, I had time to ask the Lord’s forgiveness. I had truly come before Him repentant of my sin. I acknowledged my lack of faith, my lack of trust, my forgetfulness of all that He has done for me. I wept while I repented, and I knew I was not worthy of coming to the communion table. But what should I do? I felt like I needed another hour’s worth of repenting. Maybe, just maybe, if I had that then I would feel better about going to the table because I would have repented well enough. I would be “cleaned up” enough that I could come to the table. But, isn’t that just me thinking I have something to do with my salvation and forgiveness? I knew the Lord was telling me to go, but I didn’t feel worthy of going. Yet if I stayed, then I would be in disobedience to Him, and rejecting His gift of free grace.

I wanted time to apologize enough and to repent enough. Maybe I could read some scriptures to show how sorry I really was. But there was no time, and I knew the time at the table would be over soon. I knew that if I stayed in that seat I would be denying what the Lord has asked me to do, and I would be laying claim to the thought that I have to “clean up” first so I can come to the table. So on shaky legs with tears streaming down my face, I made my way to the table. I was the absolute last one, and I took communion with my gracious Savior Jesus. I was trying to pray out loud with my children, but there is no way they understood me. I could barely even make words.

As I sat there, I realized that the communion table will never be the same to me again. I couldn’t “clean up” well enough, or repent well enough. I had to come dirt, filth and all to accept the free gift of grace that is offered. I am not in charge of my salvation. That morning the Lord laid on my heart that He will do the work I was never meant to do. He will give salvation because He is good to us. He will give forgiveness because that is what He came here to do. He will restore us to a right relationship with the holy trinity because that is what He hung on that cross for. I needed to lay aside my pride, guilt and shame and come to Him. He would accept me at His table, and He would not turn away. His love was deep for Peter, and His love is deep for me.

Communion came to mean something so much deeper than I had ever experienced. It came to mean humility and brokenness, but it also meant freedom, love, and grace. That morning, the sacrifice that had been made on my behalf was tangible as I held that bread and that cup. It was a sacrifice I knew I did not deserve and could never earn. A sacrifice that Jesus made for the joy set before Him, and somehow that joy included me—my mess and all. His body was broken for me, His blood was shed. He came to bring us hope beyond what we see today, a hope beyond who we understand ourselves to be. Hope because He is the risen Savior who bore our sin and shame. He hung on that cross to take the cup of wrath that was prepared for me, for us. So when I drink that cup and eat that bread, I know that His sacrifice paid it all, and the veil between man and God has been torn. And I am always welcome at His table.

So let us come to the table. Let us gather and thank Him for what He has done and will continue to do. Let us acknowledge that we will never be able to “clean up” enough to come on our own, but we aren’t supposed to. Jesus doesn’t expect us to carry our sin or carry the guilt of our sin; that’s why He came. He came to give freedom and life to sinners lost in the darkness and enslaved to sin. Let us remember Him by gathering at His table, and thanking Him for the work He has done on our behalf. It is a beautiful table full of grace and forgiveness and love.

Mary Kathryn Lassetter

Having a Plan for Spiritually Productive Conversations

Article by Parks Edwards, a NWer studying at SEBTS.


The Biblical Basis for a Plan

Conversations are perhaps the central way in which we encounter others on a daily basis. Because of this, how we conduct our conversations and the subject matter they contain can both be powerful avenues for the gospel. There are two passages in Scripture that specifically bring this idea out and help us to think about the opportunity that we have to be Christ’s ambassadors in conversations with others. As Peter writes to suffering Christians, he encourages and exhorts them to recognize they are blessed by God in their suffering. He says,  “in your hearts regard Christ the Lord as holy, ready at any time to give a defense to anyone who asks you a reason for the hope that is in you. Yet do this with gentleness and respect, keeping a clear conscience, so that when you are accused, those who disparage your good conduct in Christ will be put to shame” (1 Peter 3:15-16). Peter’s admonition to his Christian audience is clear: they first must be living under Jesus’ Lordship, having hearts set on Him, and then out of this posture they are to be ready to explain why they believe they have such hope to those who ask. All of this is to be done with “gentleness and respect” and not out of arrogance.

In Colossians 4:5-6 Paul writes, “Act wisely toward outsiders, making the most of the time. Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how you should answer each person.” He is encouraging his readers to be living their lives in such a way that they are mindful of the opportunity they have to spread the aroma of Christ to non-believers. Such people have an awareness of their mission in this world that is a part of God’s great story of redemption. Included in this is how our conversations with non-Christians can have a powerful influence for the gospel in their lives. So, like Peter, Paul exhorts his readers to be alert (act wisely, making the most of the time) and to be ready to engage in spiritual dialogue with others in a gracious manner. It is evident then, that having a plan for these conversations is a central aspect of the Christian life both as a matter of evangelism and discipleship to Christ.

Common Hindrances for Engaging in Spiritual Dialogue

So, are you prepared to engage others in spiritual dialogue? Think back to the last time you conversed with someone about yours or their beliefs. How did this go? How did you feel about it? Is engaging others in spiritual conversation something you get excited about? Or is it something you fear and avoid? It seems that for most Christians, having spiritual conversations with non-Christians is a very rare occurrence. Even when there is a clear opportunity to engage, most of us find ways to get out of it. Why is this? If conversing with others about our faith in Christ is central to our lives as Christians then why don’t we do it? There seem to be four common reasons that stand out.

The first is that most Christians simply do not have a plan for engaging in spiritual conversations with non-Christians. It is an aspect of our Christian lives that we are conscious of, but perhaps do not feel equipped in. This results in us “putting it on the shelf” so to speak and we end up practically abandoning this powerful avenue of witness to others. If you don’t have a plan, you generally won’t engage.

The second is that many of us lack this kind of intentionality in our lives. We read passages like those from 1 Peter and Colossians, but we do not carry those encouragements and exhortations into our daily lives. This is a matter of discipleship and love for Christ. If we love Him, we will be devoted to His purposes in this world. Our action in “giving a defense” to those who ask us about our hope in Christ flows out of us having hearts which are honoring Him as our Lord (1 Peter 3:15). A love for Christ means we will increasingly be possessed by His wisdom which will in turn lead us to live lives focused on impacting those around us, especially in the way we engage in spiritual dialogue with them (Colossians 4:5-6).

The third is that when most of us think about having a plan for engaging in spiritual dialogue, we tend to believe this means we need to do most of the talking. After all, isn’t the goal for non-Christians to come to know Christ? And how can they know unless someone tells them? Thus, we end up developing some sort of script or method to bring to every conversation with a non-Christian. What then can happen is that we do the majority of the talking, and we do not take the time to learn where our non-Christian friend is spiritually. We rightly see them as someone who needs Christ, but we fail to love them if we do not listen to them. The result of this kind of approach is that the Christian often feels pressured to “get it right” in every conversation. We get so focused on our script/method that we are not really listening to the person with whom we are speaking. The point here is not to denigrate evangelistic methods (they are useful tools), but rather to focus on loving people well by genuinely listening to them. Also, we must recognize that every conversation will be different because people are different.

The fourth is that many believers feel like they carry the burden of proof in spiritual dialogue with others. This feeling usually comes up when the conversation partner is more skeptically minded. For example, the skeptic makes the comment, “I don’t think that the gospels give us a true picture of Jesus. The church has corrupted what Jesus originally taught.” The usual response of the Christian is to either have no answer to this claim or to have an answer and immediately feel the need to respond. The dynamic in such conversations is that the skeptic does not have to support his own beliefs with reasons. He simply pokes holes in the Christian’s beliefs while the Christian is focused on plugging them up.

Some Suggestions on How to Engage in Spiritual Conversations Effectively

We have identified four common hindrances to believers engaging in spiritual conversations with non-believers. So what are some ways we can move past these hindrances while showing love for those far from Christ? Here are three suggestions.

The first suggestion goes back to the notion of intentionality in our lives for Christ. We must be those living with an eternal perspective, those who “act wisely toward outsiders, making the most of the time” (Colossians 4:5). We also must be dependent on Jesus in all things, for we can do nothing apart from Him (John 15:5). A very practical suggestion to live intentionally with regards to spiritual conversations with others is to ask Jesus to give you opportunities. Ask Him to send people across your path throughout the day who need Him. Ask Him to make you aware of these opportunities. You will begin to see these opportunities in little comments that people make which touch upon spiritual topics. Or perhaps someone will ask you directly something about your faith. The point is that you will begin to have a new spiritual awareness around the things people are saying and how these serve as open doors for conversation.

The second suggestion is that instead of approaching spiritual conversations feeling like you need to do most of the talking, try approaching them doing most of the listening. If your co-worker says he’s an atheist, ask him “how long have you been an atheist?” Find out what kind of atheist he is (what does he mean when he describes himself as an atheist?) What convinced him that atheism is true? Does he ever doubt his atheism? Focus on listening to what he believes and why he believes it. If people feel like you are genuinely trying to understand what they believe and where they are coming from, it creates a cordial and friendly tone to the dialogue. Usually, they are much more likely to ask you what you believe as well and then you can testify to your trust in Christ. On the contrary, if people feel like you are only interested in proving your own beliefs right and pointing out where they are wrong, they will be closed off to further dialogue. So, we must listen and ask questions. Not only does this approach make people feel more loved, but it takes you out from under the burden of proof. Many Christians fail to engage in spiritual conversations with others (especially skeptics) because they feel like they don’t know enough. They feel “outgunned”, so they just avoid it altogether. With this listening and questioning approach, the burden of proof is off your shoulders. Taking the posture of a learner, you will find that as people explain what they believe and why they believe it, more questions will come to mind to ask them. What often happens is that people come to a place of difficulty in their own beliefs, and then you can aid them in thinking about things they have never considered. To be sure, there is a place for us as Christians to bear the burden of proof for our beliefs. The point here is that we do not need to approach every conversation with a non-believer in this manner.

The third suggestion is that as you ask questions and learn about other people’s beliefs, focus on that one thing they need to think more about. This helps with another difficulty in spiritual dialogue where the non-Christian throws out so many things and the conversation ranges so widely that it lacks focus. Your goal is, with the Holy Spirit’s help, to identify that one idea or claim your non-Christian friend needs to think more about. You want them to move closer to the cross. This is often a slow process as God changes people’s hearts. Many times, people hold wrong ideas about Christianity that need to be challenged in a respectful and loving manner, so that they can see clearly the hope of the gospel. For example, the claim cited earlier was from an atheist who says, “I don’t think that the gospels give us a true picture of Jesus. The church has corrupted what Jesus originally taught.”  As long as he thinks the gospels have been corrupted and do not tell us the truth about Jesus, he will feel justified in rejecting what they say. However, if the Christian responds by asking, “Oh I see, and can you help me understand what convinced you that that is true?” In this conversation, the atheist has made a claim about the nature of the gospels, and so he bears the burden of proof for explaining why this should be accepted by the Christian. Many times, people are used to simply making such claims about Christianity and never having them challenged. As a result, it may turn out they don’t have good reasons for believing their claims.

Conclusion

Following Jesus means that we will be concerned to advance His kingdom and purposes in this life. Our conversations with others serve a key part in this. With the Holy Spirit’s help and a life of abiding in Christ, we can engage others in spiritual conversations to move them closer to the cross. May we all take this privilege seriously and be intentional in our conversations, “acting wisely toward outsiders, making the most of the time” and being “ready at any time to give a defense to anyone who asks” us for our hope in Christ (Colossians 4:5; 1 Peter 3:15).

How to Pray for Small Group Leaders

Sunday: That they would be conformed to the image of Christ and be visible examples to their members.

For those whom he foreknew he also predestined to be conformed to the image of his Son, in order that he might be the firstborn among many brothers. ~Romans 8:29


Monday: That they would have wisdom and courage to lead everyone in their small group to work together, reach neighbors with the gospel, praying together for boldness and open doors.

Therefore, we are ambassadors for Christ, God making his appeal through us. We implore you on behalf of Christ, be reconciled to God. ~2 Corinthians 5:20


Tuesday: That they would grow in their love for Jesus, and be able to encourage love for God and care for His people, teaching their members to come alongside teaching one another to learn from each other.

And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works, not neglecting to meet together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another, and all the more as you see the Day drawing near. ~Hebrews 10:24-25

and what you have heard from me in the presence of many witnesses entrust to faithful men, who will be able to teach others also. ~2 Timothy 2:2


Wednesday: That they would be equipped to help meet the physical, spiritual, and emotional needs of one another in the group celebrating and supporting in practical, tangible ways.

Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ. ~Galatians 6:2

Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep. ~Romans 12:15


Thursday: That they would have wisdom to know when their members are idle, faint hearted, or weak so they can admonish, encourage, and help them according to their need, with patience to walk alongside those they shepherd and to wait on God to see the fruit of their labor of love.

And we urge you, brothers, admonish the idle, encourage the fainthearted, help the weak, be patient with them all. See that no one repays anyone evil for evil, but always seek to do good to one another and to everyone. ~Thessalonians 5:14


Friday: That they would recognize their own sin, fight against sin in their own hearts and help each other in their small group see the deceptions of sin.

But exhort one another every day, as long as it is called “today,” that none of you may be hardened by the deceitfulness of sin. ~Hebrews 3:13


Saturday: That they would know how to apply God’s Word to their work, homes, thoughts, and help everyone else apply it.

But be doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving yourselves. ~James 1:22

Getting Back Into 1 Peter

After our break for Lent, we’ll be returning to 1 Peter this Sunday, April 28th, as Noah Joyner leads us in 1 Peter 3.8-12. To reconnect with Peter this week, read a little bit of 1 Peter each day to be reminded of what God has been teaching us through this challenging epistle. Here’s a suggested reading plan for the week:
  • Monday – 1.1-12
  • Tuesday – 1.13-2.3
  • Wednesday – 2.4-12
  • Thursday – 2.13-17
  • Friday – 2.18-25
  • Saturday – 3.1-7
 “you should remember the predictions of the holy prophets and the commandment of the Lord and Savior through your apostles” (2 Peter 3:2)

Larry

Holy Week Daily Devotionals

As we enter the last week of the season of Lent, I hope you will take a little extra time to reflect on the love of God for you in Christ as we follow in His steps each day of this last week leading up to the cross.

To help you in that, here are some options for daily devotionals for this last week (from Palm Sunday to Easter Sunday).

Enjoy!
Pastor Larry


  1. Holy Week Scripture Readings — This devotional gathers the relevant scriptures from each day of the week – guiding you to follow Jesus through the gospel accounts.
  2. Love to the Uttermost by John Piper — This devotional is selected mediations on the love of God in Christ.  They don’t connect to the passion week calendar.  You could read the scriptures from devotional #1 alongside this if you wanted to connect to the last week calendar.
  3. Holy Week Daily Podcast by David Platt of Radical.net — (with text in case you would rather read it than listen).