Men’s and Women’s Roles (1 Peter 3:1-7)

As a follow-up from the message on 1 Peter 3.1-7 (on March 3, 2019), here are some helpful links from Mindy Williams, who leads our Women’s Ministry Team, that explore further the idea of men’s and women’s roles.



  1. It’s Submission Not Subjection by Tim Challies
  2. Confessions of a Reluctant Complementarian by Rebecca McLaughlin
  3. Leading and Submitting Like Jesus by Erik Raymond
  4. What Biblical Submission Does and Does Not Mean by Justin Taylor/John Piper
  5. I Need a Woman Who Can Mulch (A sweet picture of marriage) by Dustin Coleman
  6. Sexual Abuse in Marriage by Darby Strickland Parts 1, 2, 3
  7. Called to Peace – This is a local ministry that provides education and support groups for women who are in destructive relationships. The founder is SEBTS graduate Joy Forest and she has written Called to Peace: A Survivor’s Guide to Finding Peace and Healing After Domestic Abuse.
  8. The Heart of Domestic Abuse – Chris Moles specializes in working with men who are abusers and has written The Heart of Domestic Abuse: Gospel Solutions for Men Who Use Control and Violence in the Home . Chris also does the PeaceWorks Podcast.

As many of you know, in February several Southern Baptist churches and church leaders were accused of sexual misconduct and abuse. The elders of NW believe such past behavior is unacceptable and should not be hidden or covered up. We also believe that the victims of such abuse need to be heard and cared for. Thankfully, several key Southern Baptist leaders have spoken out and are calling for transparency and change. Below are links to comments by Al Mohler, Russ Moore, and J.D. Greear (the current SBC president). The last link gives practical advice for how victims of abuse can get help.

Ben Merkle

Here are resource recommendations for reading on heaven from one of our elder, Stu Bulman.  Stu is leading our 10:45 class on “the Hope of Heaven” on Sunday mornings.

Randy Alcorn “Heaven”

While this book has been on my shelf for 6 years, early last year I picked up this book to learn more about our eternal destiny. I was so surprised, challenged and deeply encouraged by what I read that it became my focused study for the year.  This book challenged some of my long-held assumptions about heaven and made me hungry for more!  Scripture instructs us to set our heart and minds on heaven to fuel godly living and stimulate our hope in heaven’s glory! (Col 3:1-4) Alcorn teaches with clarity and humility.  This book has significantly changed my day to day joy and enhanced my passion to invest now for an eternal gain!  Every beautiful sunset, every spectacular view or delicious food or pleasant friendship serves as a signpost to fuel my expectations of what is to come. Get this book and study it carefully.  Don’t leave this treasure on the shelf!  I believe you will be richly rewarded from it.

Note that there are several Alcorn resources with similar titles which are subsets of this book.  He also has an audible edition, but it is significantly abridged.  The full version is available on Amazon for $14.89

Joni Eareckson Tada “Heaven”

I have great respect for Joni.  For one who is acquainted with suffering (her own and as her life’s mission many others experiences as well), I expected that she would have significant insights on heaven. The first half of her book seemed similar to Alcorn’s.  However, the second half is very rewarding.  Her passion for Jesus and her pursuit of heavenly gain will encourage you.  While we may not understand the “whys” behind much of our suffering here, Joni will help you with an understanding of the potential gain that you could enjoy for eternity!  The “Worth it!” component of this book is huge!  Finish the Alcorn book, but don’t stop there.  Get this one to grasp the impact of your daily choices toward eternity! blogs

One more resource for you is the Desiring God website —  Get Piper’s (and via him others like Jonathan Edwards) study of the scriptures on heaven. You can type in their search bar and you’ll find lots of encouragement and challenging teaching on topics related to Heaven.


The philosopher Soren Kierkegaard lived a brief life (of only 42 years) in Denmark in the 19th century. soren_kierkegaard_drawing_niels_christian_kierkegaard In his Philosophical Fragments, he tells a parable entitled “The King and the Maiden” in an attempt to explain some of God’s motivations behind the Incarnation. The parable goes like this (as retold by David Jeremiah):

Imagine there was a King who loved a humble maiden. She had no royal pedigree, no education, no standing in the royal court. She dressed in rags. She lived in a hovel; she lived the ragged life of a peasant. But for reasons no one could quite figure out, the King fell in love with this girl in the way the kings sometimes do. Why he should love her was beyond explaining, but love her he did, and he could not stop loving her.

One day there awoke in the heart of the King an anxious thought: “How in the world is he going to reveal his love to this girl? How could he bridge the chasm that separated the two of them?” His advisers, of course, told him that all he had to do was command her to become his queen, and it would be done. For he was a man of immense power, every statesman feared his wrath, every foreign power trembled before him, and every courtier groveled in the dust at the King’s voice.

This poor peasant girl would have no power to resist; she would have to become the queen!

But power, even unlimited power, cannot command love. The King could force her body to be present in the palace, but he could not force love to be present in her heart. He might be able to gain her obedience this way but coerced submission is not what he wanted. He longed for intimacy of heart and oneness of spirit, and all the power in the world cannot unlock the human heart—it must be opened from within.

So he met with his advisers once again and they suggested he try to bridge the chasm by elevating her to his position. He could shower her with gifts, dress her in purple and silk, and have her crowned the queen. But if he brought her to his palace, if he radiated the sun of his magnificence over her, if she saw all the wealth, pomp, and power of his greatness, then she would be overwhelmed. How would he ever know if she loved him for himself, or for all that he had given her? And how could she know that he loved her, and would love her still if she had remained only a humble peasant? Would she be able to summon confidence enough never to remember what the king only wished to forget—that he was the king and she had been a humble maiden?

Every alternative he came up with came to nothing. There was only one way. So one day the king arose, took off his crown, relinquished his scepter, laid aside his royal robes, and he took upon himself the life of a peasant. He dressed in rags, scratched out a living in the dirt, groveled for food, and dwelt in hovel.

He did not just take on the outward appearance of a servant, he became a servant–it was his actual life, his actual nature, his actual burden. He became as ragged as the one he loved so that she could be his forever. It was the only way. His raggedness became the very signature of his presence.

Of course no parable explains every aspect of the spiritual truth it communicates, but Kierkegaard’s story illustrates an important point. When the Son of God became one of us, he demonstrated the incomprehensible love of God for us and his inexpressible grace towards us (Rom 5:8; Phil 2:5-11; Heb 2:14-18).

Merry Christmas from all of us at the Bush Center for Faith and Culture!

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Ken Keathley – NW Member and Director of the L. Russ Bush Center for Faith and Culture and Senior Professor of Theology  at Southeastern Baptist Theological Seminary in Wake Forest, NC.

Who is This King of Glory?

We must not forget this Christmas that the baby in the manger was the King of Glory. He did not come simply to give us something to celebrate every December 25th. We celebrate Christmas because he is the King of Glory who came to give himself as a ransom for many and give his life on a Roman cross. Praise God that is not the end of the story because he rose on the third day and now sits at the right hand of the Father awaiting the day when his Father says, “Go get my people!” Christmas should not make us only think of a baby in a manger but of the hope we have in eternity “through the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead, to an inheritance that is imperishable, undefiled, and unfading, kept in heaven for [us]” (1 Peter 1:3-4).

The video below will hopefully aid in your thinking of Jesus as you prepare for Christmas.

Brad Holloway

Staying Focussed the Last 5 Crazy Days Before Christmas!

Perhaps the three most important things you can do during this season are to slow down, prepare your heart, and focus on what matters most.

To help you do just that, we’ve created a free, 5-day devotional adapted from Paul Tripp’s book, Come, Let Us Adore Him, that leads up to Christmas Day and invites you to adore your Savior, Jesus.

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